I had the pleasure of collaborating with the very talented writer and blogger, Jiji Tharayil who contributed largely to put together this article. She’s the creator of Life Line. When I came across her blog and got to know her a bit more, I realised with our similarities, we just had to write a piece together! I hope you enjoy our article and make sure to visit her very inspiring and positive blog

Love is easy they say; relationships aren’t. Well, seems like they haven’t found their right one yet, for that’s not what the right ones make you feel. In a world filled with complex emotions and myriad of people, you’re bound to attract both good and bad, right and wrong. How do you know then, that you’re in love with the right person? More often than not, you just know! Despite the practical world we live in, the emotions we deal with and the battles we fight, our hearts just know when the person we’re with, is the right one. Here are a few more signs that you found the right one.

  1. They love you for who you are — They love you with all your imperfections and flaws. They don’t lay conditions for you to be more loved. They understand that you’re human, and bound to be imperfect, or make mistakes. They don’t just love you for your good; they accept your bad and ugly sides too. This way, you feel comfortable to be unapologetically yourself with them.
  1. They make your life easier — You don’t wake up with a heavy feeling, nor do you go to bed with a cloud of thoughts. Life is much easier, and obstructions and difficulties don’t get the best of you with an understanding and supporting partner. There’s more positivity in the relationship, in life, and within yourself. 
  1. They give you your space — You have a sense of freedom and don’t feel restricted in the relationship. They don’t constantly check with you about your whereabouts or plans, nor do they take offence when you have other interests outside the relationship. They also take their own space, because they know how important it is to maintain individuality, whether or not you’re in a relationship.
  1. Arguments are respectful — Two different individuals together are bound to have differences once a while. However, these differences are discussed with maturity and understanding. Respect for each other is maintained during a disagreement, and the focus is often on finding common ground or reaching a solution, rather than playing the blame game or fighting to win.
  1. The relationship feels effortless — You have a genuine friendship with them, so it’s natural and easy to co-exist and enjoy each other’s company. You respect each other’s differences and don’t need to try hard or feel obligated to please one another. Nothing feels like a burden because you genuinely want to do things that will make each other happy.

  1. They are transparent with you — You know almost everything there is to know about them and don’t have doubts about who they really are. They have your best interest at heart and don’t take advantage of your weaknesses or try to manipulate your into getting their way. They are honest and clear with their intentions and never show signs of any hidden agenda or ulterior motives.
  1. They inspire you to be the best version of yourself — With the positivity they bring along, you’re inspired to make positive changes in your life, even without being asked to. You’re inspired to look within yourself and bring out your best, not just in the relationship, but in your own life too. You’ll find yourselves getting a lot of compliments from family and friends, about the positive changes in you.
  1. You’re free to speak your mind — You don’t have to think twice before expressing yourself. You know that they have the maturity to understand you, and the patience to listen to you when you speak your mind. You aren’t scared of their reactions or how they’ll interpret your words. With such open communication, you never walk on egg shells or feel judged.
  1. You’re at peace with yourself — When you’re with the right person, your mind is at ease. You aren’t constantly anxious or worrying about yourself, your partner, your relationship, or life in general. You find yourself in peace, content and confident.
  1. They don’t shy away from expressing their love — Whether in words or actions, they never shy away from expressing their love for you. They’re proud to say you’re theirs and introduce you to friends and family. They don’t keep you guessing about their feelings for you. There’s no place or confusion or uncertainty in a healthy relationship. Their actions speak louder than their words, and hardly ever contradict the latter.

  1. Little things matter — From the way they take care of you when you’re sick, or handle your mood swings, ask you to wear your seat belt, help with your bags, or make sure you’ve eaten—such little things they do effortlessly, often reflect the immense love and care they hold for you. These little things often matter most, and trumps the special occasions or grand gestures.
  1. They believe in equality — They understand that relationships are made of two different, but equal people. They don’t put you down, alone or in a crowd, or ever try to control your behaviour. They don’t expect or make you take on everything alone. They share the load—be it finances, running a house, or taking care of the children.
  1. They don’t just value you; they value your world too — This involves your friends, family and the relationship you have with them. The right person will make genuine efforts to bond with people you care about, and opt to share special occasions with those people as much as theirs. If for some reason they don’t fancy someone in your world, they’d maintain respectable distance without forcing their choice/opinion on you.
  1. They seek a genuine interest in you — The right person will not just take you on fancy dates and shower you with gifts; they will ask you questions about yourself and your life because they genuinely want to know about you—what you like and dislike, what your values are, or what your goals in life are etc.
  1. They are in it for the long run — The right one does not keep you guessing about a future together. They clearly mention you in their future plans and look forward to a life with you. They are in it for the long run!

In a nutshell, the right one makes the relationship and your life together easier, comfortable and fun too. You may not always need someone to make you happy, but when you do have someone by your side, and the right person at that, life just gets a whole lot interesting.

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Thank you for reading.

Love, Candace & Jiji 

32 Replies to “15 Signs You’ve Found The One”

  1. Great list!! These are exactly the things I hope to find in a relationship one day, and I look forward to being this person for “the one”, whenever she finally comes into my life. I am looking forward to that time in my life. Just the thought of having someone special to share the journey of life with makes me smile. 🙂

    1. Thanks Danny. I couldn’t have put together such a list without Jiji’s great contribution.

      I feel as though sometimes when people find someone who they share these things with, they overlook it thinking a relationship is supposed to be about other things–like financial status, physical appearances etc. When in reality, these are the kind of things that makes a relationship genuine and long lasting. When you get an appreciation for these things, you will definitely find ‘the one’ soon.

      Thanks so much for reading and sharing your thoughts 🙂

      1. You’re very welcome!

        I agree, far too often people seem to focus on the wrong things and lose track of what is truly important. Two common themes I noticed throughout this list were: respect and caring. Those are both key aspects of any truly great friendship, as well. When you fall in love with someone who is a great friend, that relationship is likely to last a very long time. Physical appearance changes over time, but when you truly respect and care for someone, that is something that will hopefully never change. 🙂

      1. Thank you so much, Jiji!! I really do try to always see things as positively as possible. Any time I can help to put a smile on someone else’s face makes me smile, as well. 🙂

  2. Nice article, appreciated from someone who is approaching our 58th anniversary in June…
    We married at 20 and 22, so we’ve grown up together – and raised 4 children and are being raised by 10 grandchildren (one never stops learning!) If anyone is interested, my first poetry book is now out, titled A Penny for Your Thoughts, and deals with love and friendship and relationships… (Not really marketing, just sharing!) Thanks for your blog, which I always enjoy!

    1. Wowww… 58th Anniversary! What a wonderful thing. Congratulations to you both. That’s so commendable in this day where divorce and break-ups is so easily an option.

      “…being raised by 10 grandchildren”, that’s hilarious! Hahaha 😀

      Thank you for sharing your book and for always supporting my blog. I will definitely check out the book 🙂

  3. This is a great list, Candace—well thought-out and well-written. I would add one more sign that’s been essential in our 45 years together: You make each other laugh and find things to laugh about together.

  4. One of the greatest joys of life is having a deep fulfilling beautiful relationship with a wonderful person. I am happy that the author is that person In my life. Great post

  5. Profound and perfect, Candace and Jiji. This is true for any age. After nearly giving up, I found someone with all these qualities in my 60s. Being respectful and giving space are so important. Well done.

    1. Awww.. that’s so great Lorrie! Sometimes love comes when we’re not even looking.. that’s what happened to me. I guess some things are just meant to happen. Thank you so much for reading and sharing your thoughts 🙂

  6. Great insight into what makes a relationship work, and your list is truly ageless. My first marriage I don’t think I could have answered “yes” to anything on your list, but now in my 50’s I’m with a wonderful man and engaged to be married next October.

  7. Thank you to both of you, you are both my friends and I like your posts, I have gone through the list and confession, I have been swept off my feet, he scored 100% on this checklist.

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