This is week 3 of the new Monday series where I ask a question prompting you to give a piece of advice on a particular situation. Thanks to all those who contributed to last week’s question. I think exchanging stories and ideas is a great way for us to learn from each other and at the same time offer advice to those who might need it. Here’s this week’s question:

What advice would you give to someone who has people in their life bringing them down?


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10 Replies to “Are People in Your Life Bringing You Down?”

  1. I was just talking about this with 2 friends yesterday. The research shows that people are the sum of the 5 people they spend the most time with. If this isn’t a good reason to cut toxic people from your life, I don’t know what is. Unfortunately, these people are often in roles we cannot detach from.

    1. Yep. That’s true. I wonder if my puppy counts as one of those 5 people. Lol
      I agree, there are people in our lives who we cannot burn bridges with but might be toxic to our lives. I deal with that by accepting that the person is toxic so whatever negative things they might say, I just ignore it. Similarly, I keep the relationship cordial and maintain a certain distance so whatever negative things they might do, barely affects me. It sounds mean I suppose, but we have to protect our inner peace.

  2. Hello,
    I had a “good” friend who was brining me down. It happened slowly and sneakily. I didn’t realize it for a long time. Then suddenly, her facade started to crack. Her mean spirited personality started to show through more.
    I started to realize how drained and emotionally exhausted spending time with her made me feel. It was shocking once I realized it; because I’d been deliberately putting myself in the same space has her for years. I felt so dumb for allowing it to go on as long as I did.
    When I finally realized how much she brought me down and how much I couldn’t bare it any longer, I wrote her a letter explaining everything. I told her I was on a path to positivity and that I couldn’t deliberalty place myself in a situation that is just negative conversation after negative conversation.
    She didn’t take it well and she got upset and angry, which is understandable. However, I haven’t felt emotionally drained since I haven’t had to be around her in the last year. It was not an easy decision to end a friendship like that, but it was the right decision.

    For people whom I can’t cut out of my life (close family members)…if they try to bring me down with their negativity, I just change the subject or come back with a positive perspective negating their negative one. It takes work, but it worth it.

    1. Wow.. I feel like you just described my story. I did the same with a close friend a few years ago. It took me some time to realize it was bringing me down, but when I finally came to my senses and bit the bullet, it was one of the best decision I ever made for myself. I totally relate to your story with the family members as well.
      Thanks so much for sharing that 🙂

  3. As was the case with my comment last week, my advice probably seems easier said than done, but if you are surrounded by people who bring you down, then you need to cut them out of your life. Cutting certain people out of your life can be incredibly difficult, especially if you’ve known them for a long time. This is something I decided to do over the past couple of years. I needed to do it. You need to surround yourself with people who build you up. You need positivity and encouragement in your life. You need people around you who are motivated and are constantly trying to improve themselves. I know from personal experience that life immediately improves when you have the right people around you pushing you to become a better version of yourself. If you allow people who bring you down to stay in your life, then you will eventually drop down to their level. That is not healthy. Be happy, surround yourself with others who make you happy, and be the person who makes others happy. 🙂

  4. No matter how much you think this person needs you/you need this person, life is too short to live being brought down. Maybe it’s time to step back not completely at first. See what some space does. Maybe that’s enough to solve the issue. If not step back some more. Eventually you’ll find happiness you never knew existed.

  5. Parts way with them. If they are not adding any kind of positivity and value to your life, then you don’t need them. You are better off without them. You will pick yourself up and move on and be stronger and happier as a result.

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