We hear it all the time — ‘Opposites Attract’ — but does this truthfully apply when it comes to love? Can two people who are completely different last a lifetime with each other?
Consider the quiet straight-A girl who sits at the front of the class attracted to the party boy who misses every class — at first the girl might be drawn to him because he sparks a tremendous interest to her. She senses adventure and mysteriousness in him. Soon she goes out of her element and gets caught up in his whirlwind of charm. However, the attraction eventually fades and she starts gravitating back into her true self, to that place of self-fulfilment — away from him.
In most instances, opposites attract but the attraction never lasts; kind of like watching an infomercial — at first you’re in awe at the product, then all of a sudden you need it in your life. You buy it but after some time passes, it’s tossed in a box in your garage and you’re back to comfortably living without it.
“Opposites attract and then can’t stand each other.” — Kenneth Kaye
An extrovert and an introvert cannot coexist for long periods, much less be together in a long-term relationship — at least not a healthy one anyway. Many carry the misconception that couples who are too similar are less likely to last. Even some researchers say that couples who are too similar, both physically and in personality, are less likely to have a long lasting relationship. I completely disagree. I lived the life of an extrovert/introvert relationship for twelve years — it never lasts. Can you sit at home on a Friday night and enjoy reading a book while your significant other is partying at the club? Maybe for just a couple times; but for a lifetime? — I’m sure that answer is ‘no’.
Scientists discovered that the theory ‘opposites attract’ is a myth and that people do not form real friendships or relationships with people who do not hold the same values and views as themselves. As I grew older, my experiences made me understand this — people who share similar interests and beliefs tend to naturally want to spend more time together. I believe it is healthy to have some differences — after all, you don’t want to be dating a replica of yourself; but a relationship should be formed on the basis of a genuine friendship which requires two people to have similarities in beliefs and values. Any long-lasting relationship requires such friendship and a shared lifestyle. This not only makes it easy for a couple to peacefully coexist and get each other, but it’s fulfilling to have someone who is relatable and enjoys the same things as you — it just makes life easier!
Maybe opposites do attract, but I believe it never lasts. What do you think?
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Keep Smiling — Love, Candace