Readers who comment on my blog usually share such insightful stories and give excellent advice. As such, I decided to start a series where every Monday, I will ask a question prompting you to give a piece of advice on a particular situation. I think exchanging stories and ideas is a great way for us to learn from each other and at the same time offer advice, based on real life experiences, to those who might need it. Here’s this week’s question:

What advice would you give to someone who is going through tough times?


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21 Replies to “Going Through Tough Times”

      1. Let’s see if this one works. If so, I’ll try to type my original comment again. I’ve been trying to comment on your posts for the past week or two, but they haven’t been working. Not sure what’s going on.

        1. I’ll try this again since my original comment was blank for some reason. I don’t remember everything I wrote in the original comment, but it was something like this…

          Speaking from my own personal experiences, it is important to remember that nothing lasts forever. Tough times may seem like they will never end, but they will. I know this is easier said than done, but you just have to keep moving forward and know that better times are ahead of you. Patience is key. You have to be patient. Find reasons to smile every day. As tough as things may be, there is always something in your life that you enjoy. There is always something that can make you smile, you just have to let it happen. In the toughest times of my life, I still was able to recognize the things that made me happy. You have to find those things in your own life and focus on them as often as possible. There are always people who are willing to help you in your time of need. You just have to be willing to let them help. In times when it seems like you are completely alone, you may find that the person who is willing to help is a complete stranger. This blog post and all of the comments on the post are proof of that. No matter what you’re going through in your life, there is someone somewhere who has gone through it before. They survived it, and you will, too. Allow those people to help you. No one goes through life completely alone. We all need others to help us out from time to time.

          Candace, I love the idea of making this type of post a weekly thing. It really can help a lot of people. Great idea!! I can’t wait to see what you have planned next. 🙂

          1. Danny, I feel bad about your comment not coming through initially. I think I might be having some issue with my comment section that I’m currently getting sorted out. I apologise. Thank you for taking the time to re-type it. I’m so happy you did because your advice is so well thought out and will be very helpful for readers. I agree with all of your points.

            I especially love “No matter what you’re going through in your life, there is someone somewhere who has gone through it before. They survived it, and you will, too. Allow those people to help you. No one goes through life completely alone.”

            Thanks so much for sharing this and for your continued support 🙂

          2. No worries. The issue could very well be on my end. I have noticed that if I get an error message while trying to comment, the comment goes through if I try a different browser.

            And you’re very welcome. Your post is something that could help a lot of people around the world, so I am happy to share my input. Hopefully it helps somebody. I have gone through tough times in my life, but I know that I haven’t gone through anything that is unique to me. Others have gone through it before me, and I know many more will after me, as well. Whatever the situation may be, somebody somewhere can relate to what someone is going through. We’re all going through this journey of life, and I feel that we should help each other out along the way whenever possible.

  1. The most important things to know when you are gong through a challenging time:
    1. It’s okay to ask for help. If you need emotional support or something done for you, ask your friends. Ask for something specific. It benefits them too because the satisfaction of giving is tremendous.

    2. Things will get better. Most bad times are temporary.

    1. Those are great advice. Most people might prefer to hide their troubles or have too much pride to ask for help. It’s good to point out that it’s okay to ask for help. Thanks so much for your contribution Laura.

  2. There are a couple of things I believe and share with others.
    1. It’s not the end of the world until it’s the end of the world!. I don’t need to catastrophize things. Yes, it’s might be difficult, but this too, shall pass.
    2. “It will all work out in the end. If it’s not working out, it’s not the end.” (The Most Exotic Marigold Hotel)

    1. Ahhh… I love them Tim. I must say, my favourite is “It will all work out in the end. If it’s not working out, it’s not the end.” Thanks so much for sharing those 🙂

  3. I’d suggest doing two things that may sound contradictory, but aren’t: If you’re going through tough times, make a special effort to take care of yourself—get plenty of sleep and exercise, eat well, do things that you love, whether reading a book, getting a massage, going for a walk, or binge watching old “Dick Van Dyke Shows.” At the same time, go out of your way to extend kindness to another person and to the planet—that could be making brownies for a neighbor, picking up trash at a local park, sending a note of appreciation to someone you know, smiling and holding the door for a stranger…. If times are so tough that it’s debilitating and hard to make it through the day, seek help from a professional or from a caring friend. Do your best to receive their help with grace and gratitude. Receiving is a gift to the giver. Remember you’re not alone.

    1. Such great advice Donna. Thanks so much for your contribution. So true, we gotta take care of ourselves, get out there and make an effort without letting our troubles run our lives and consume us.

  4. I think whats important when anyone is going through “tough times” is for us as individuals, (because lets be real, we all go through hard times no matter who we are), is to try and try very hard to understand WHY we are going through momentary hardships. I say momentary because I am in agreement with the saying “this too shall pass”. For me it was only after much self-introspection and continued study on personal development (still on-going) that it was revealed to me that “hell has a purpose”! One might ask what do I mean by the preceding statement and its simply this. We as a individuals, people and nations all have goals and aspirations, which ultimately equals the need to be happy. The journey from the unhappy point where we are presently at to that blissful apex of happiness is as much of us already know, definitely not a straight and narrow path. The road is very nebulous.

    I am of the opinion that the hardships are tools that we are to use as measurements and guides to gauge progress and productivity, and to continue making alterations to improve our plan for happiness, while staying true to that ultimate goal. When we are learning and transforming, pain is a necessary part of that process, it also points out to us if we are aware enough that some of the decisions and activities we are part-taking in might be the cause of the tough times. I once heard that no problem is unique, and its all recorded in some book, or some story of someone that we know. So its up to us to acknowledge and fully recognize why we are having hard times, rather than diving deep in depression and blaming everything and everyone else. Lets use tough times to our advantage, because once we have life, we have problems, and we have a brain that even with all the existing technology today cannot fully understand the magnificent power of the human mind! We need to support and cheer on ourselves and believe with faith that we can tolerate our hell on earth, because its somewhat of a purification process to prove that we are ready and deserving to “bear the weight” and responsibility of the happiness we seek.

    May we all summon the courage to walk the nebulous road of our individual hardships

    Regards

    1. So well said Motee. Thank you for contributing that piece. I couldn’t agree with you more. As you said, once we have life, we have problems—which means we all got them. You said it, and a few others who commented as well, that no problem is unique or new. Every problem has already been lived through repeatedly since the beginning of time. We are never alone. Thanks again for your valuable insight 🙂

  5. A problem shared is half solved. Like Laura pointed out, it is okay to ask for help. Don’t you always have to carry everything on yourself. Speaking to the right people about it will enable you to locate the cause of the issues. You don’t cure a disease by attacking its symptoms. No. You do so by knowing what caused it and taking measures against the source. In the same way, try to understand why such times have occurred and work out ways to come out stronger.
    Finally, a key key point is to hang on. Don’t give up. Don’t give in. It’ll get better in the end.

    1. “You don’t cure a disease by attacking its symptoms. No. You do so by knowing what caused it and taking measures against the source.” — I love this Jainey. Prevention is better than cure! Thank you so much for sharing 🙂

  6. I think it’s important to tell them to remain optimistic and know that whatever it is that they are going through, it will pass and there will be light in their life again. 🙂

    1. So true even though, depending on the situation it might be hard to be and remain optimistic, it always helps to be that way. Nothing good or bad lasts forever and it’ll eventually pass. Thanks for sharing that hun 🙂

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