Last weekend I lost a friend, a dear friend whom I’d known for over 18 years. Since then, I haven’t been able to clear my mind and focus to write because I’m still in shock. As such, my post today is a personal message—something I would’ve written in my journal to clear my mind, but instead decided to take a risk and write it here with hope that it reaches someone who might need it.
Here goes nothing…
We all go through sh*t. That’s life. It does not matter who we are, where we’re from, what we look like, or how much money we have in our pockets; we all have something in common—a life that is filled with ups and downs. Everyone we know, everyone we see on TV, everyone we see on social media, everyone we work with, everyone we meet for the first time, everyone we pass on the street, everyone with a smile on their face—EVERYONE is currently fighting a battle we know absolutely nothing about.
Let us not be swayed to think we are the only one who is having a hard time and believe that everyone around us is living trouble-free and has life all figured out. That is beyond far from the truth. We must never judge a person’s life by what meets the eye. What we see on the outside in hardly ever what really goes on inside. There is always someone with more insecurities, more burdens, or more difficulties than us—heck, it might even be the very same person who we think has their sh*t together, who makes us feel depressed about our life.
With the rampage of social media, when we see someone excelling in their career, travelling the world, in a happy relationship, has fancy things or living a luxurious life, we tend to compare lives and feel depressed by what is depicted; but we have no idea what sacrifices it took or is taking them to be where they are. We have no idea what is going on behind the scenes. Let us not allow our perception of other people’s life to make us feel bad about our own. We all have different destinies and different journeys to get there. Let us not compare someone else’s middle to our beginnings. Let us not think we are alone and are being left behind. If we look past the egos and facades, we will see that we are not the only one; everyone is fighting a battle.
Life is not linear. It never was and never will be. Life is a roller-coaster ride. Sometimes we will win and sometimes we will lose. Sometimes we will hurt and sometimes we will rejoice. Life is not meant to be easy—if it was then we’d all have not a single care in the world. We have to ride the waves and despite what we see and choose to believe, the truth is, we all have problems to some degree; the only thing that sets up apart, and what truly matters is our attitude towards those problems.