We all experience changes in life; typically from our career, relationships, health, finances, the list goes on.  Most times, we’re already so comfortable and settled where we are that we prefer to not change anything about it, even if the change leads to something better. Our minds get flooded with ‘what if’ scenarios—”What if I don’t like the new job?” “What if I can’t find someone else to love me?” “What if the stock market falls?” We form these imaginary scenarios in our minds and start believing them which breeds fear and causes us to resist change. 

Michael A. Singer once stated, in order to grow, you must give up the struggle to remain the same, and learn to embrace change at all times. No expansion or revolution can take place without change, and periods of change are not always comfortable. Change involves challenging what is familiar to us and daring to question our traditional needs for safety, comfort, and control. This is often perceived as a painful experience.

Have you been through any major changes in your life?


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12 Replies to “Learning to Embrace Change”

  1. Love this! It reminds me of the wonderful Joseph Campbell quote: “We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.” It takes courage to enter the unknown, and trust that there will be something there waiting for us to find it. Thanks, Candace.

  2. Life is fluid and flowing. It never stops and is never static. We think something is always one way or the other and has solidity. I’m learning that’s not so. If you have one foot holding onto the past and another foot trembling about the future, you´re crapping on the present.
    “It will all work out in the end. If it’s not working out, it’s not the end.”
    From The Most Exotic Marigold Hotel

  3. My whole life, I tried as hard as possible to avoid changing anything. The thought of doing something that was unfamiliar scared me. I suppose that is probably fairly normal. The past few years, however, have been the complete opposite for me. When I decided to move away from the only home I had ever known, everything in my life started changing. Since that time, nothing has seemed to stay the same. Just when I start to feel comfortable, something seems to change again. While things haven’t exactly been perfect, I have realized just how necessary change is in life.

    My new lifestyle has forced me to make changes I never would have voluntarily made. Nearly all of those changes have been for the better. I’m starting to get to the point now where a lot of things I had hoped for over the past few years are falling into place. When I stop and think about how I got to this point, I realize the changes I have made (and am making) are the reasons for the improvements in my life. Change can definitely be scary at times. The fear of the unknown never seems to go away. But the rewards for taking risks can be pretty amazing. Things I never would have chosen to do have led to the results I’ve always wanted.

    “We form these imaginary scenarios in our minds and start believing them which breeds fear and causes us to resist change.” This is perfectly worded. My worst fears in life have always been things I have created in my mind. The reality of those situations ended up being quite minor compared to the situations I created in my mind. Imaginary situations are very powerful. Sometimes that is a good thing, other times it is terrible. The things I have regretted most in my life were the things I was too scared to try. I hate having to wonder “What if…?” One of the best lessons I have learned is that failure is just part of life. We all fail at times in life. There is no reason to fear it. You learn from it and move on.

    Great post!!

    1. I’ve learned two things: change is uncomfortable and it is constant. Your story depicts both.
      I can totally relate to you/ I’m about to make a life change soon and it is kind of scary getting into the unknown. But I know it will work out well.
      Our mind can be our best friend and worst enemy if we let it. Learning to filter our thoughts and act accordingly makes a huge difference in the choices we make and the way our life turns out. So true, failure is a part of life. I’m so happy to hear things have been working for you.
      Thanks for sharing your story Danny 🙂

  4. One of the major changes in my life was the separation (10 years ago) and divorce (7 years this year) from my now ex husband. We were together for 9 and a half years. It was such a big change and i was like, what do i do now? But from the support from my friends and family, i found my way through the haze.

    One of the most positive changes in my life was the transition to motherhood. I was little scared and nervous about bringing a little person into this crazy world, but I wouldn’t have changed it for anything. Now I am a mother of 2 (4.5 yr old and almost 3 yr old) and now our family is complete.

    But it just proves that change is a good thing, and it is what we learn from and makes life exciting!

  5. I’ve recently had a run in with dealing with change, and how uncomfortable it can be. I once heard one of school teachers say “change is the only constant of life”, this is so true. I love your reference to the “untethered soul”, it truly was the catalyst that helped me to embrace change and remain open through it. Awesome post my love!

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