Today is week two of my ‘question of the week’ blog series. I really enjoyed hearing from you all last week and am super excited to read your responses this week.

Today’s Question: What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?

My response: I’ve heard a lotttt of excellent advice from thought leaders, family and close friends, and even from some of you through your comments. To come up with my response, I had to narrow down my top pieces of advice and choose the one that has been most instrumental in me being at this wonderful place in my life. So, the best advice I’ve ever received came from my love, Andy—“If you’re not happy with your life, stop complaining and do something about it; no one is responsible for your life and happiness, but you.”

How about you?

Comment below and share your thoughts. 

26 Replies to “What’s the Best Advice You’ve Ever Received?”

  1. It’s amazing how something you say can have such an impact on a person,babe I had no idea that this was So instrumental to you:) I am very happy that it helped you.

    For my piece of advice, it came from a book I read a couple years ago “ you can’t have what you’ve never had by doing the things you’ve always done”.

    1. Yep, I know that piece of advice would have been vague in your memory… just goes to show how we need to be mindful of what we say to people. You never know the impact your words can have on someone, especially when it comes to saying something negative.

      Love that piece of advice. There’s so much truth to it! Thanks for sharing love xoxo

  2. When I was 17 or so, and ready to correct all that was wrong in my world, my father admonished me with the following: “They did fine before you came, they’ll do just fine after you leave. Don’t take yourself too seriously”.

    1. Wow… that’s some good advice he gave you.. I apply a similar concept when it comes to my job–although I give my best there, I don’t take it too seriously because I know work will go on just fine when I’m gone. Thanks so much for sharing that 🙂

  3. Dear Candace,
    Thanks for this very intriguing question. Over the years, I have received heaps of very valuable advice, which all in one way or the other have heldped me a lot, and it seemed impossible to weigh them against each other. But then suddenly the obvious came over me.

    The advice was from of my mentors, while I was still a young doctor, and it was “Always be yourself”. It sounds simple enough, but it is not always an obvious one. In our attempts to please or fit in, it’s so easy to put on a mask and play a role.

    1. Always nice hearing from you Karl. I love that piece of advice. It does sound simple but as you truthfully said, many prefer to ‘fit in’ and be someone else. I gotta say, there’s nothing more liberating than “being yourself.”

      Thanks so much for sharing that 🙂

  4. “If you want a different result from what you’re experiencing right now, you have to review things and make necessary changes. Begin with changing your way of thinking.”

  5. “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” Dr. Seuss
    Thanks you for your posts!

  6. I have received a lot of great advice throughout my life, both directly from friends, family, etc., and indirectly from things I have run across. I don’t know that I can pick just one, so I would like to share two with you.

    One of them came from an interview with Jimmy Buffett that I watched several years ago. He said it takes the same amount of time to be nice to someone as it takes to be a jerk to them. You may not remember meeting them, but they could remember meeting you for the rest of their life. Be nice and make sure you leave them with a positive memory. At the time, I was traveling with a band 180+ days a year and met more people than I could ever remember, so it was a great reminder to always treat others as well as possible in every situation. Even if you’re having a bad day, smile and leave a positive impact on the people you meet. Whenever I met someone on the road who seemed especially excited to meet me, I tried my best to give them my full attention and make them feel special in some way. My lifestyle has changed now, but I still try to do that whenever I meet someone. It has become part of who I am.

    The other one is similar to yours, Candace. It is to learn to love yourself. Be responsible for your own happiness, and don’t rely on others to make you happy. If you love yourself and are happy with the person that you are, then you will be happier. As a result, people around you will be happier.

    1. Always love reading your stories Danny. You’re so so so right. We have no idea the impact our words and actions have on others. We might forget about it easily, but they won’t. There’s a saying: “people may forget what you did for them, but they’ll never forget how you made them feel.” We all have bad days, but we really should try our best to not ruin other’s day as well by being mean and rude. I have been really trying to be aware of the way I treat others as well.. I mean, it takes nothing to just smile.

      Thanks so much for sharing 🙂

      1. I love that saying! It’s very true! I think one of the most powerful things anyone can do in this world is to have an impact on how someone else feels… to cause them to react emotionally in some way. When your words or actions influence how somebody feels, then you are making an impact on their life. It could potentially change their life. That is powerful. “It takes nothing to just smile” is something I remind myself of every day. Something as simple as a smile could turn someone else’s day around when they need it most. Without saying a word, just smiling at someone really could brighten their whole day.

  7. My mother was in her last months of fighting cancer and I signed up for 3 months leave under the family medical leave act. I know it is crazy now, but I felt so guilty for leaving my coworkers with a heavy workload, I offered to work from my mother’s bedside. My boss said, no, give your mom all of your focus, this office and this work will be her for decades. It will be here long after we are all gone. She was so right. I would be kicking myself now, if I hadn’t spend every last moment with her fully present.

    1. That’s really something Joyce. Your boss was absolutely right and I’m so glad you listened and spent that precious time with your mother. I wish everyone will see their jobs in this light.. for many, and I see it all the time, their job is their identity and their life. It’s almost as if they lose focus on what’s truly important like family, love, and just being a person independent of their job. I’m so happy you shared this story and thanks so much for reading my blog.

      P.S. I got your email 🙂

      1. Thank you. It was a defining moment for me. It really helped me to recognize the importance of balancing my work life and putting my focus on what is truly important, like family and to your point having an identity not tied to my job.

  8. I have so many pieces of advice I could share, but one that sticks out is “Laughter is the shortest distance between two people” – So profound!! No matter what you are going through in life or what difficulties you might be facing, laughter is the one thing that will alleviate any kind of tension. If you are at odds with someone, all you need is to share a nice chuckle (laugh with each other not at each other) hehe 🙂

    1. Wow, that’s so true. This remind of times when I’m having a little couples argument… most times Andy tries to make me laugh when I’m upset; I try sooo hard not to laugh, because I know as soon as I do, the argument is over! Laughter really does alleviate any kind of tension as you said.

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