It’s been a little over a month since my last post and as much as I’d love to say it’s because I’ve been too busy enjoying the summer, that’s actually not the case.

Truth Moment: Some changes occurred in my life over the past few months that have been taking a mental toll on me. My life, which for the past 15 years centred on my growth and progress, suddenly came to a screeching halt and I have not been coping well.

Because of this, I lost a lot of focus and my mind is in a constant battle trying to figure my way out of this rut that I’ve fallen into. Everything from my morning routine to my sleep pattern seems to be in uproar—I haven’t been reading as much, I spend way too much time on social media (which I hate doing), I start my days later, I hardly meditate, I barely get enough done during the day, and yes… I haven’t been blogging either. I am aware of what needs to be done to pull myself out of this, but I just can’t seem to get it done. 

More than anything, I want to regain focus and get back to living the fruitful balanced lifestyle that made me want to jump out of bed every morning.  

I thought that writing about it and hearing your thoughts might be a good start to get back on the horse. Have you ever fallen off your horse? How did you get back up? Comment below and share your thoughts.


Smile! Life is better when you’re laughing!

44 Replies to “Why I Haven’t Blogged in Over a Month”

  1. Dear Sunshine… and I use that to remind you of a quote that says, “You are the sky, everything else is the weather.” Believe me, this too will indeed pass and you will come out the other side braver, bigger and stronger! We’ve all been there. Broken down, brought to our knees and faced with changes that we were not anticipating. Furthermore, we can either be broken down or broken open (which was the title of one of my blogs a while ago). This is an opportunity for you to continue to grow and evolve and feel how expansive you are…. much like the skies and the cosmos. Give your Self the space and time, write because it’s therapeutic and tap into your tribe- those friends near and dear to you who you know will give hold the space for you to be all of you- funny, sad, demanding, distraught, elated, joyful- all of it- whenever and however. These are the things that have always gotten me through. Oh, and the biggest one of all- my daily gratitude practice. Finding gratitude and joy, even in the darkest moments, is what helps us build resilience. And speaking of resilience and adversity, if you do find yourself wanting to read an uplifting book, check out Option B by Sheryl Sandburg. And above it all, hold your Self in love. May your heart be a little lighter with each day and may you feel the love being sent your way 💕

    1. Thank you so much for sharing that Joann.
      I apologise for my very late response. I took some time off to find my way back to my happy place.
      Yes, I also find that keeping a gratitude journal and practising self love, significantly helped in bringing me back to that content, peaceful frame of mind 🙂

  2. Sorry to hear that you are feeling this way. It sounds to me as though you are going through one of the many transition periods we all experience as we go through life. Acceptance of “what is”, is the first step to regaining the balance in your life. Hope you have the world by the horns again soon!

    1. Thank you so much.
      I apologise for my very late response. I took some time off to find my way back to my happy place.
      Yes, it’s definitely one of those transition periods that took a lot of acceptance, but I am starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel once more.

  3. When that happens to me, I realize that I have changed my habits and then I just need to, one by one, regain my old hbits and things fall back into place. . . usually.

    1. Thanks Ray.
      I apologise for my very late response. I took some time off to find my way back to my happy place.
      Yes, that’s so true. I started to change my habits one by one again to get back to where I want to be.

  4. There is an ebb and flow in life always. Sometimes the tides are high and other times they hardly come in at all. Accept that right now is a low time and know that it will pass. It always does. Trust the Presence and the process. This too is part of the journey. Be well.

    1. Thank you so much Tim.
      I apologise for my very late response. I took some time off to find my way back to my happy place.
      Yes, it’s long and dreary, but it is coming to pass. I can see the light at the end of the tunnel now.

  5. I think one of the best things you can do is to talk about it, with radical honesty – and that’s what you’ve done here. I appreciate your vulnerability. I’ve had several times when I’ve fallen off course and the hardest thing is always getting back on track. One thing that I notice about myself is when I do regress, in order for me to get back on track, I cannot jump right back into doing all that I use to do before at the same time. Instead, I start small with maybe trying to get back into my meditation routine, then I work on something else. Except when it comes to things like not sleeping or eating well, I work on those right away! Take it one day at a time, be kind to yourself, allow yourself the chance to recover at a pace that feels right for you.

    1. I love this especially because it’s exactly what I have been doing to get back on track.
      It feels so good to be putting the pieces back together one by one.
      Thanks so much for sharing this KAC, I really appreciate it.
      PS. I apologise for my very late response. I took some time off to find my way back.

  6. I hope you’ve seen your doctor first to check your blood and make sure that everything is okay. I know that something as small as low potassium or magnesium can have a huge effect on you. Not all doctors equal and you may need to see more than one to get help.

  7. I’m sorry to hear this Candace. There is only so low you can go, you will go up again.

    Is there anything you can do to deal with what caused this? Might help and it’s how I’ve been dealing with things recently.

  8. Girl…you are human. Remember that first….and blogging and everything else that you think needs to get done can wait. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself and if you feel the need, seek a therapist; I have #noshame We don’t have to do everything all the time. You being you is enough.

  9. Hi, Candace, I would not presume to give advice, but I will share a couple of quotes from the poet Rilke which helped me when I faced days and weeks and months of depression and feeling like I had lost my way (or that I would never find it).

    “Were it possible for us to see further than our knowledge reaches, and yet a little way beyond the outworks of our divining, perhaps we would endure our sadnesses with greater confidence than our joys. For they are the moments when something new has entered into us, something unknown; our feelings grow mute in shy perplexity, everything in us withdraws, a stillness comes, and the new, which no one knows, stands in the midst of it and is silent.”

    “The more still, more patient and more open we are when we are sad, so much the deeper and so much the more unswervingly does the new go into us, so much better do we make it ours, so much the more will it be our destiny.”

    Both are from his amazing book, “Letters to a Young Poet,” which is filled with so much wisdom, I refer to it often. Take care and be gentle with yourself (oops, that probably sounded like advice).

    1. Thank you Donna.
      Those are very deep and meaningful; thanks for sharing them.
      It’s been such a long mid-year feeling that way, but I feel much better lately.
      PS. I apologise for my very late response.

  10. Hi Candace, you are not alone here, all of us go obstacles in life from time to time but you have to remain focus on your God and yourself. The only being to give you that peace of mind in your most trying time is God the Father.
    The other person to make you Happy is you.

  11. Candace, that a positive person like you is willing to share this setback so openly is an inspiration to many. Until this passes, and it will, I suggest getting encouragement by reading your own uplifting blogs. God Bless You!

  12. Dear Candice, Whatever you are going through it was meant for you, but so is strength. You have the strength to overcome your challenges. Take and enjoy this mental break from all that you do. Go for a walk on the beach, try to count all the stars in the night sky and remember the innumerable blessings you have. You are loved by God and others. xoxo

    1. Thank you Sandra.
      A walk on the beach sounds perfect right now. I think I’ll be doing that very soon.
      You’re right, I also believe it happened for a reason for me to learn and grow from.
      PS. I apologise for my very late response. I took some time off to find my way back to my happy place.

  13. Hey Candace, like many others who will read your post, I can absolutely relate to the rut you’re in. Maybe not exactly the same things you’re going through, but a similar feeling at least. The past couple of summers for me have had periods in which I have struggled to sleep or find motivation to get up and do the things I’ve needed to do. When I’ve gone through those times, the worst habits I have gone back to are over-eating and drinking too much. The only thing that has made this summer slightly better for me was the fact that I had no choice. I have had to get up and go. I learned several years ago that everything in life always evens out. Both good times and bad are only temporary. Remember that, when you look at the big picture, there are many more good times in life than bad times.

    Everyone has their own way of getting out of a rut. Only you truly know what will make you happiest. For me, I need to get things out. I need to talk or write about them. Even writing things for myself that no one else will ever read can help sometimes. Sometimes all you need to do to get out of a rut is to just be patient. Eventually, you will find your way back to the path you want to be on. I recently went back and re-read some of my old blog posts. Doing that instantly brought me back to the same mindset I had at the time I wrote those posts. Perhaps going back and re-reading some of your old posts would do the same for you. As much as I like to do things my own way, I tend to benefit from an occasional friendly kick in the ass from the people who know me best.

    Over the past year that I have been following your blog, I couldn’t even begin to tell you how much joy and inspiration your posts have brought to my life. I could never thank you enough for just being you and sharing your thoughts. If you ever need any kind of advice, or just need to talk/write and know that someone is listening/reading, please feel free to reach out to me any time.

    P.S.- There was an error the first time I tried to comment, so I’m not sure if the first one went through. If you get duplicate comments from me, feel free to delete one. haha

    1. Hey Danny,
      I apologise for my very late response. I took some time off to find my way back.
      I guess we all have those down times huh. I think what got me more down was thinking that I would’ve handled it better, which I didn’t and I suppose that kept dragging me further and further down.
      I will take your advice and go back through some of my old blog posts.
      it’s good to know that my random pieces of writing brings so much joy to others; it’s motivating to keep doing what I love and enjoy.
      I hope you’ve been feeling much better since.

      PS. No worries about the duplicates if any.. for some reason the comments gives some problem at times.

      1. It definitely takes time to get back on track when things seem to not be going as planned. Everyone deals with it in their own way and at their own pace. I’m just happy you’re back!! 🙂

        The past month or 2 of my life has been the complete opposite of how my summer went. That is actually the reason I got away from blogging for a while. I have been spending all of my time either working or hanging out with friends. I have been really busy, but it’s a good busy. Life is good, and seems to be getting better by the day. I’ve written a couple of posts over the past week about my current lifestyle and mindset.

  14. Candace,
    I know where you are my friend because I feel like I’m there too. My mind has been getting the best of me and with all my tips and tricks I can’t seem to pull back in control.
    But you did blog…. and this blog is inspiring and so full of courage. I’m reading all of the loving responses and it’s so touching.
    This too shall pass my friend ❤️

    1. Thanks so much Sarah.
      Yes, the responses are so helpful and full of care. I think I’ll make a post out of them to share with others.
      I’ve been feeling much better lately, and is inspired to blog again.
      I hope you’re doing well.

  15. Hi dear, I’m sorry you’ve been going through some difficulties, but please don’t feel too badly about getting off track. It’s completely normal and it happens to the best of us. We are human, after all. I know we pride ourselves on keeping it together, but the reality is is that sometimes the universe has other plans, more as a way of testing our patience, strength and belief. I hope you are in a happier place and doing better. Much love.

    PS: I know we are still overdue to do a collaboration piece. I haven’t forgotten. Life just loves getting in the way! We will make it happen soon. 🙂

  16. I am going through a similar rut. I am watching my child go through something and I can do absolutely nothing to help. I have to sit and be patient, hope for the best and wait. It has brought everything in my world to a sketching halt. I am trying to be kind to myself but I am also looking at the steps to take to help myself. I too have let the normal things go by the wayside. So I am going to start small and start to re-establish my routine one item at a time. I think writing in a journal on how adding each thing makes me feel will be able to see things change. I also think it is important to acknowledge the small changes which in time will lead to bigger changes. Be kind and patient with yourself. I think we will feel much stronger once we reach the other side of this. Keep smiling!

    1. Thank you Tracey. I really appreciate you taking the time to share your story.
      I too have been writing about it and taking some time to care for myself.
      It’s been working great, I feel much better lately.
      How has it been going for you?

  17. Candace,
    As a fellow optimist and spreader of joy, I know how hard it can be when you aren’t feeling it. What works for me, is to let others take the lead and follow their happiness until mine returns.

    1. That’s such a great idea.
      I’ve been focusing on listening to other’s inspiring stories and methods of happiness. It really worked well for me.
      PS. I apologise for my very late response. I took some time off to find my way back to my happy place.

  18. Let me begin with how amazing I find the honesty 🙂 I’ve been feeling the same of late, so this post makes me feel OK about not being at my best! and i sure am going to take some help from the comments 🙂

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